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September 21, 2005
Speaking of Exes
Penny and Gloria have both blogged about their exes recently. Which brought to mind mine. Well, that and the fact he is STAYING WITH ME. Weird!
But it has gone surprisingly OK. Allan is off now, watching his friend Barbie (yes, Barbie) play a gig in her punk rock band. And I am at home, supposed to be packing to go see the first of my high school friends, Tina, get married.
Instead, though, I am catching up on my blog reading, too keyed up from the nerves that come from seeing your ex-boyfriend for the first time in a few years. An ex-boyfried of three years, who I lived with for two of those. That's a lot of proverbial water under the bridge.
There were only a couple of tense moments this evening. Mainly due to hurt between both of us as to why it ended. And I hate to say it (Capricorns KNOW EVERYTHING), but I think Allan is right. I think a lot of it was because I changed. I was only 23 when we first started dating. He was 29. And when I was 23, I thought I was an adult, fully formed, ready to take on marriage and everything else that follows. And I didn't think any of that would change, so what did it matter that I was only 23?
Now that I'm 28, I still plan on getting married and settling down one day. But I'm a very different person than I was at 23. Not in big ways. But in little ways that add up. Ways that end a relationship you started when you were 23.
So I guess Allan was right.
But he's having his just desserts, staying here while I'm gone. Mainly because he's been threatening me to bring a harem back each night over the weekend and have them do all sorts of horrible things IN MY BED.
Remind me why I thought it was a good idea to have him stay here again? Oh yeah. To watch Fred & Ethel. Do it for the kids.
Posted by jen at September 21, 2005 11:18 PM
Comments
NEVER SAY THE EX IS RIGHT!!! That's all I'm going to say on that subject because, well, you know my opinions on exes.
I love the kitty pic though!! That is true Fred style and Ethel is sitting there thinking, "What the hell is my brother DOING?!" I can't wait to come over next weekend and hang out w/ those two...oh and you:) Let the shopping spree begin!!
Posted by: Penny at September 22, 2005 12:47 AM
Ethel DOES have Allan's eyes.
But EW EW... the ex in your bed??
Posted by: Sammy at September 22, 2005 03:23 AM
i'm with penny. even if you secretly think it, dude. that's the kind of shit that should never be said out loud. you know like barbara bush saying people are better off living in the houston sportsdome than they were in their poor houses in new orleans.
i hope fred and ethel scratch the shit out of anyone if he would even actually dare to bring them to your place. which considering the amiable tone of your relationship i have to assume he is just teasing you. :)
at this point, there is only one ex-boyfriend i would probably even allow into my house. but damn would his wife be pissed if he was ever there!!! :)
Posted by: carolyn at September 22, 2005 04:31 AM
Don't worry -- he has promised me he is only kidding. Allan is a big fan of the inappropriate joke, and of using them to get my goat. And somehow even now I have not learned to just ignore them. I still get all indignant! So sad.
Posted by: jen at September 22, 2005 07:09 AM
Capricorns know everything. Ha - you've just made my day. :)
It's weird that everyone's seeing their exes these days. I am secretly hoping that I run into my last one so that I can ask her about my stuff.
Posted by: DDJ at September 22, 2005 08:05 AM
I have an ex who is a Capricorn. He thought he knew everything. We know that is not true.
I am sure that Fred and Ethel will protect your bed for you.
Posted by: Dagny at September 22, 2005 09:10 AM
Yay! I went to your blog today hoping against all hope (why would you be blogging amidst all your busy-ness) that there would be some news about how the night went, and now I see there is not only news but also an OLD PICTURE! Score! Thank god for diligent blogging! Have fun at the wedding!
Posted by: Neeta at September 22, 2005 12:39 PM
Whoah. Allan. At your house. How long is he staying?
P.S. Wish Tina well for me!
Posted by: Jeff at September 22, 2005 12:47 PM
Agreed that the ex is NEVER EVER EVER right. Dude. Seriously. NEVER RIGHT.
He's not taking the chairs, is he?
Posted by: Gloria at September 22, 2005 02:13 PM
I am a Capricorn and I can tell you that male Caps are either totally boring or really smart and sexy!
Female Caps are smart, super sexy and a little wack-o in relationships. Not too different from your usual gal. :)
Posted by: la.dauphine at September 22, 2005 04:06 PM
Jen's friends who have not met Allan: it's okay if Jen admits that he is right about the reason they broke up. She has him beat decisively in every other category known to humankind, so this is really just a small bone thrown to a you-know-what. Besides, when you find that you've put up with someone's less-than-stellar behavior for a while (oh, say, a couple years) you tend to do things that might otherwise be considered rude when you sever contact forever. Until you run into them in a cafe with your mother in law, or when they stay in your apartment. All the same, change the sheets, Jen. No matter how tired you are when you get back.
Posted by: Urs at September 22, 2005 04:39 PM